Tears slipped down the cheeks of the young woman sitting across from me at the coffee shop. She dabbed her eyes with the napkin that she twisted around her finger. She shook her head and finally blurted out, "He just isn't sensitive to my needs!"
The newlywed was hurt by a recent argument with her husband. It wasn't a major rift but it reminded me of the early days of my marriage.
I often put my young husband to such a high standard that he was doomed to failure. He had to be Brad Pitt, Mr. Darcey and Jason Bourne all in one well dressed package. Okay, to be honest, it was Pierce Brosnan, Patrick Swayze and Cary Grant. The other stars were just little tykes in the 80's.
I hoped that my young friend at the coffee shop would learn sooner than I had, years into my marriage, that perfect husbands exist only in Hollywood. What we desire of the men in our lives is just too tall an order for one mere human.
Whether we have an imperfect spouse or no husband, there is One who yearns for us every hour of every day. It has been in those times that I have been disappointed or abandoned by that guy in my life that I ran to the Lord. Without a need--I wouldn't have even sought Him.
Valentines often finds women feeling quite empty. TV and internet ads reveal all that we are supposedly missing whether we are in a serious relationship or not. Either we are mad that a certain someone did not read our minds..or...there is no certain someone texting or calling.
But there is One who will not disappoint. Here are a few of His Valentines--written to you:
He will rejoice over you with great gladness.
With his love, he will calm all your fears.
He will exult over you by singing a happy song.
Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you.
Isaiah reveals God -- a truly perfect husband:
For your Creator will be your husband.
The Lord Almighty is his name!
He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel,
the God of all the earth.
For the Lord has called you back from your grief
as though you were a young wife
abandoned by her husband...
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